“Inside each and every one of us is our one, true authentic swing. Something we was born with. Something that’s ours and ours alone. Something that can’t be learned… something that’s got to be remembered. Over time the world can, rob us of that swing…It gets buried inside us under all our wouldas and couldas and shouldas… Some folk even forget what their swing was like…” Bagger Vance
The journey to reconnecting to our authentic swing involves an inner process of three distinct steps:
Self – inquiry, Surrender and Coming Home.
A venture to the interior, where one faces one’s deepest fears, core beliefs, patterns, and shadow side. It is the ultimate quest, the journey home to heart, soul, and life purpose.
It is the journey I was intuitively guided through as I wrote my book, Fear to Love – An Inner Journey Home, which is where the three steps came from, and a journey that led to unity of mind, body and soul. Essentially, it the Hero’s Journey, a journey that every one of us is called to make.
The Hero’s Journey
The Hero’s Journey is a classic story structure one sees in stories worldwide. Coined by Joseph Campbell in 1949, it refers to a wide range of stories in which a character ventures out to obtain what they need, faces conflict, and ultimately triumphs. When the journey ends, the character is different. Not necessarily visually, but always internally.
As a curious mythologist, Joseph Campbell looked for the similarities between cultural myths, rather than their differences as most scholars did, and his studies resulted in what is known as the monomyth – a universal story structure which takes a hero/heroine archetype through a sequence of stages.
The hero archetype resides in the psyche of every human being, which is part of the reason we love reading, hearing, and watching stories. As Campbell identified the patterns of his monomyth, he was amazed to find the same structure existed in different cultures and many religions. Because the hero’s journey exists in these cultures and religions, it represents a process that is relevant to the whole of humanity.
What is the process?
Ultimately, it is the process of transformation from innocent child to mature adult.
Every child is born into a set of rules and beliefs belonging to a group of people, and through the child’s heroic efforts he/she must transcend these in order to discover his/her true self, which ultimately, is the return to his or her soul.
If we think of the hero’s journey as a map for self-development, it can be of great value to us, and it has three clear steps.
Self – Inquiry: Taking a long hard look at our comfort zone and what we know. Is it working? Are we happy? Is this what we really want?
Surrender: Letting go of the known and entering the unknown. This is the most challenging stage, as it requires us to release what we thought and believed in order to connect to the truth.
Coming home: This is when we experience wholeness. It is the stage in which we emerge with a deeper connection to our heart, soul, and life purpose.
As Abraham Maslow points out, life is a continual confrontation with choice. Safety and growth, dependence and independence, immaturity and maturity. But the question is whether we will choose this call the adventure – the Hero’s Journey.
Whilst the overarching hero’s journey we all face is the one from innocent child to mature adult, we go through many journeys within the journey. In these we face certain aspects of self which we wish to transform.
Examples of a journey within the journey:
The person who exercises like crazy to achieve a certain physique but is never satisfied, embarks on the journey of facing core beliefs about his/her body.
The person who chases money yet never feels abundant embarks on the journey to uncovering and healing fear of poverty, lack of worth and disconnection.
The person who keeps attracting toxic relationships embarks on the journey to face their lack of intimacy with self, their own wounding and trauma.
Of course, every journey within the journey ties to the whole of who we are, but I find that when people look at it this way it makes more sense.
Not many people fully embrace the Hero’s Journey, a personal odyssey that leads an individual to wholeness. This is because as humans we are creatures of habit and have a deep fear of the unknown, so we tend to refuse the call to adventure, and we do this is many ways:
- Put important things aside.
- Distract ourselves with social media and other people’s lives.
- Make excuses.
- Blame circumstances and other people
But we can’t deny what is brewing within. It’s a tension. A sense of dissatisfaction that grows stronger and creates disharmony.
When the disharmony is stronger than the desire to remain in the known, we choose to take action and ultimately, find resolution.
Perhaps you are currently embracing your Hero’s Journey, or perhaps you have felt the call but refused it. What matters is not where you are on the path, what matters is what you do today – right now.
How to Embrace Your Hero’s Journey’s
Ultimately, no one can tell you how to embrace your hero’s journey or tell you what it should look like for you. From my perspective though, and through experiencing my own hero’s journey and in working with clients, there is great value in having a personal coach to help you as you embark on the path of lasting transformation. A coach doesn’t tell you what to do though, a coach helps you find the answers within yourself.
As the caddy Bagger Vance (magical mentor) says to Rannulph Junuh (hero) in The Legends of Bagger Vance:
“Now I can’t take you there Junuh, I just hopes I can help you find a way.”
I have a series of coaching sessions that include discovery processes, assignments, and guided visualizations designed to help you get clarity around and embark upon your Hero’s Journey. Like a personalized map for embracing your greatest adventure.
If you are interested in exploring more, let’s have a conversation!
You can read more about me here: https://belindabennetts.co.uk/
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If you would like to read my Hero’s Journey, it’s called Fear to Love – An Inner Journey Home, and it can be found here: https://amzn.to/3eGCySI
About Belinda Bennetts: Belinda is the founder of Belinda Bennetts: Mind Body Soul. She is an intuitive holistic life coach, therapeutic writing facilitator, poet and author.